No not “Which was first the chicken or the egg?” but “Can men and women be just friends?” Like really just friends. I’ve sort of always wondered this as I don’t have many male friends. And I’ve got to admit that in most of the few male friendships I have, there is some type of history or one person is sorta attracted to the other.
This question is on my mind today because of a conversation with a close girlfriend and her boyfriend after spending New Years with Mr. Off Limits. The three of you who follow the blog might remember that Mr. Off Limits is a friend of a guy I used to “date” (hence the name) that I sickeningly flirt with on social media but rarely in person. A brief recap – after I returned from my last confusing visit, I asked him (I thought directly-my girlfriend disagrees) via text (<–this is why my girlfriend disagrees) “Are we just playing online with our flirting or are we for real?” He dodged the question. I took that as “just playing” and told him so. He replied “I wouldn’t take it that way”. Again, the lack of an answer was my answer. Since I am cool with being just friends, we have continued as such. This all happened back around labor day. Continue reading