I first mentioned Mr. Off Limits in Out of the Blue and then again in Your Ex’s Friend. Still I’ll give you a short intro to the “grayness” which is Mr. Off Limits and I. A recap… Mr. Off Limits is a friend of a guy I used to hang out with, 90% of our friendship happens on Facebook where we sickeningly flirt on each others wall, most of our mutual friends think we’re an item, we’ve been asked when are we going to stop playing and hook up, and prior to this trip we’ve never spent ANY time alone together. I’ve always thought we were playing with our flirting. For example, “our song” (currently) is Lupe’s “Outta My Head” so he may post on my wall “girl I wantcha to know, I can’t get ya outta my head ;-)” and I may comment “you know I love it when you sing to me”. Sometimes it’s a bit naughtier like his status may read “I found a gray hair” and I’ll comment “where? ;-)” He posted a while back to my wall “will you be my e-girlfriend?” and I said yes so we are officially e-boos. lol Still with the exception of a few parties, since we’ve never spent any real-time together we seemed to just be eflirting . Queue this Labor Day weekend.
I love the smart things Sophia says. She had a stroke to blame her bluntness on, I don
I’ve been told by more than a few people that I’m mean. I’ve never really thought too much about it, because I really think I’m fairly nice, I have several friends, blah, blah, blah…of course I’m biased.
A guy I met on twitter (and later in person) some time last year sent me a text out of the blue the other day. A random “Good morning. u crossed my mind. how are you stranger” text. I didn’t respond, I mean I don’t even really know him, we talked on twitter and then went out to dinner once and that was it. The contact had long ago stopped and I feel no need to make an effort to keep contact. He sent another one the next day that read “I know you were most likely too busy to respond to me yesterday, so I’m just going to stopping by to say hello. “Hello” Enjoy your week“. I didn’t respond to this either as I was sick that day, like called off from work sick. So guess what came next? A twitter DM that read “Did you change your cell number?”
So if you read my post on Wednesday about The Man Hunt. You know that I attended a singles event last weekend and you also know that I participated in a panel discussion, called “The 3 stools”.
The 3 stools started with three women being selected from the crowd, one in her 20’s, I was forced selected to represent for the 30s and another in her 40’s. The guest expert Charmaine led the Q&A starting with the by questioning the women, allowing the crowd to comment as well. A short intermission followed and the stools were swapped out for 3 men and another discussion ensued.
Sadly because I waited nearly a week to write this post I’ve already forgotten some of what was discussed, but I did leave with some questions that I like to pose to you.
I made a decision to do more things (in general) in 2011. Each year I think of all the events, festivals, parties, trip, etc I miss out on. This is partly due to the fact that I just can’t be everywhere, but also due to the fact that I don’t make it a point to get out and try new things. Living in an urban environment often provides you with a plethora of entertainment options. As a result you either end up being extremely social by trying different events weekly or you find a few events you truly enjoy and you develop a routine. I tend to lean towards the latter, hence my deliberate effort to do new things in this year.
So last weekend I hit up a fairly new event here in Atlanta, The Man Hunt. The Man Hunt is the brainchild of the creators of PlayDate. The website describes the concept as “an event where singles meet up to enjoy quality conversation, cocktail and entertainment all while making genuine connections.” Now in the past I’ve tried to avoid these kinds of events. I’ve always associated a negative connotation to these sorts of singles gatherings (speed dating, matchmaking, etc). My thought was that they consisted of desperate women trying to find a man and men who know this and show up to take advantage. I mean, after all they called it “The Man Hunt”. What does that sound like?
Yesterday while cruising my Timeline on Twitter I was curious about a link retweeted by Wise Diva. The retweet read “A new survey of American singles finds that modern men are more likely than women to want children…”
The article, Gender Flip, summarized the results of a survey of 5000 Match.com singles. The one statistic I want to focus on is: 24% of childless single men report wanting children, compared to just 15% of childless single women.*