Follow your heart???

High jump the broom like a premie out the womb, My patna yelling "too soon, don't do it! Reconsider, read some literature on the subject. You sure? F@ck it!"


So I’m sitting here watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta and tonights episode is all mainly about Cynthia’s wedding. And as I watch the show with all of my cyber friends via facebook and twitter, I notice that my wall and timeline are filled with nothing but “It’s not too late”, “She’s making a mistake”,”That stopnsign shot was telling”, “Her shirt (which read “you big dummy) says it all”, ‘”How many signs does she need?” etc….

It seems that the viewers are not the only ones who feel this way. Cynthia’s mom, sister, event planner and fellow housewives (i use this term loosely but so does Bravo) seem to think this is a mistake as well (with the exception of NeNe). If you watch the show you know that Cynthia was a beautiful bride as she wed Peter at the Fernbank Museum providing a great finale for season 4. The self proclaimed “runaway bride” stated that she decided to follow her heart. This made me wonder, is it best to follow your heart?

On one hand its definitely 100% your decision what you do in your life. I don’t think anyone disagrees with that, but I think the concern is do you always really know what best for you? Truth is only you know the entire story about your relationship. You are the lead role in the biopic of your life, you know whats going on behind the scences when the curtain closes and everyone else has just has a ticket to the show.

But….on the other hand sometimes when you’re on stage you can be so caught up in the act you don’t know what’s going with the lighting, the props or the actors stage left. Oftentimes, you get so caught up in your relationship you can’t look at it from a nuetral perspective. Sometime your friends and family know you better than you do and can snatch you back when you depart too far from yourself. So, if all your friends and family dislike your significant other maybe there’s something there, everyone can’t be jealous and jaded.

This post is somewhat personal for me because none of my friends cared for my ex and even scheduled an intervention to discourage me from going through with it. I also found out later that most of my family didn’t care for him either. As it turns out they were all right, we divorced 3 years later and had problems from like month 2! Prenuptials though, just like Cynthia, I was in love and wasn’t hearing nothing anybody had to say.

So, what do you do? do you always follow your heart? or do friends and family know best? have/would you date/marry someone your friend and family disapproved of? did it work out?


4 comments on “Follow your heart???

    • Thanks for saying that I was going to quote Phil4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, that transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. NIV

  1. This is a great topic. I think relationships just take ALOT of work either way, if you follow your heart or decide to make a partnership. If the two people involved aren’t willing to compromise, listen and learn it will not work either way. Sometimes you just pick a douchebag….we’ve all had our fair share.

  2. First of all LOL @ Patrice. Tiff you bring up several good points. All relationships, romantic, friendships, family, come with risks–things can end up good or they can end up bad. Either way, you learn a lesson. Following your heart may be the way to go, but don’t forget to listen to your head and your gut. Here’s hoping our hearts (and other parts) lead us in the right direction and not off a cliff. And if we do go over the cliff, here’s to our family and friends being there to support us (with minimal judgement) as we climb back up. Amen.

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